A Good Weekend

So, Elisabeth and I got married.

Hooray! I am incredibly excited about this, although it's still a little surreal five days later. I assume one of the reasons people go on honeymoons is to practice saying "husband" or "wife" without cracking up. The ring is a reminder; I am waiting for my hand to adjust to it, and I keep bumping it on things.

I feel like I owe people an explanation for the way in which we handled the wedding: the secret parents-and-siblings-only affair, snuck in  five months earlier than the originally planned date.  The truth is, it was a huge decision, and definitely not an easy one. It was based on the fact that, even very early on in the planning, our ceremony was generating more stress than excitement between the two of us. A LOT more. We both wanted to be married - but we didn't love the location, or any of the locations we looked at; the expense was intimidating;  we kept putting off the invitations. We kept not discussing it, until eventually we realized we were avoiding it altogether.

Let's face it, we're shy people. When we first seriously discussed the idea of a private ceremony, it was as though a great weight had been lifted. It never came back - we got married in our own home, and it felt low-key, low-stress, and, well, right.

I missed my friends. That was the hardest part,  no question about it. When we were still planning a big wedding, the ONLY part we looked forward to was having our closest friends beside us. I mean, that's kind of the whole point. That was the sacrifice, I guess - the price we paid for turning inwards, for extracting the ceremony from the  celebration. I'll always regret it a little. But it wasn't the wrong thing to do - it was essentially what we needed to do in order to be standing here now, married - and still sane. The introvert triumphant, I guess.

And we are married. That's the change in my life that I am still absorbing. I keep rolling the word around in my mouth - "married" -  and I like the taste of it. I am looking forward to the rest of our lives. It is - and I couldn't quite sneak this word into the ceremony - awesome. So thanks - and I am going out on a limb here - for your understanding.

And Elisabeth, if you're reading this - we're going to have so much fun!

Comments

[Zohar]

Congratulations!

[sandhya]

congratulations, david! i know it's been a while but i'm so happy for you! :))